The Velvet Rage

The Velvet Rage
Author: Alan Downs
Publsiher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2012-06-05
ISBN 10: 0738215856
ISBN 13: 9780738215853
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Velvet Rage Book Review:

A groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality, why it leads to shame over one's identity, and how to overcome it In The Velvet Rage, psychologist Alan Downs draws on his own struggle with shame and anger, contemporary research, and stories from his patients to passionately describe the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.

The Velvet Rage

The Velvet Rage
Author: Alan Downs
Publsiher: Hachette UK
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2012-06-05
ISBN 10: 0738215856
ISBN 13: 9780738215853
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Velvet Rage Book Review:

A groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality, why it leads to shame over one's identity, and how to overcome it In The Velvet Rage, psychologist Alan Downs draws on his own struggle with shame and anger, contemporary research, and stories from his patients to passionately describe the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives
Author: Joe Kort
Publsiher: ReadHowYouWant.com
Total Pages: 362
Release: 2011-01
ISBN 10: 1459608429
ISBN 13: 9781459608429
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives Book Review:

Openly gay therapist Joe Kort provides 10 powerful and positive steps gay men can take to isolate and overcome self-defeating behavior patterns, and move in healthier and more rewarding directions: Take Charge of Their Own Lives Affirm Themselves by Coming Out Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives 'Graduate' From Delayed Adolescence Avoid - or Overcome - Sexual Addiction -Learn from Successful Mentors Whove Been There, Done That Take Advantage of 'Therapy Workouts' Achieve - and Maintain - Rewarding Relationships Understand the Stages of Loves Commit to Their Partner.These solid and reliable 'Top 10' life steps that have been most helpful to Joe Korts clients in his 16 years of working with hundreds of gay men, are presented in an engaging and easy-to-understand manner and are supplemented by case histories from his practice. These are time-tested, practical decisions gay men can make in their search for emotional, sexual and personal fulfillment

Out of the Shadows

Out of the Shadows
Author: Walt Odets
Publsiher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Total Pages: 368
Release: 2019-06-04
ISBN 10: 0374719322
ISBN 13: 9780374719326
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Out of the Shadows Book Review:

A moving exploration of how gay men construct their identities, fight to be themselves, and live authentically It goes without saying that even today, it’s not easy to be gay in America. While young gay men often come out more readily, even those from the most progressive of backgrounds still struggle with the legacy of early-life stigma and a deficit of self-acceptance, which can fuel doubt, regret, and, at worst, self-loathing. And this is to say nothing of the ongoing trauma wrought by AIDS, which is all too often relegated to history. Drawing on his work as a clinical psychologist during and in the aftermath of the epidemic, Walt Odets reflects on what it means to survive and figure out a way to live in a new, uncompromising future, both for the men who endured the upheaval of those years and for the younger men who have come of age since then, at a time when an HIV epidemic is still ravaging the gay community, especially among the most marginalized. Through moving stories—of friends and patients, and his own—Odets considers how experiences early in life launch men on trajectories aimed at futures that are not authentically theirs. He writes to help reconstruct how we think about gay life by considering everything from the misleading idea of “the homosexual,” to the diversity and richness of gay relationships, to the historical role of stigma and shame and the significance of youth and of aging. Crawling out from under the trauma of destructive early-life experience and the two epidemics, and into a century of shifting social values, provides an opportunity to explore possibilities rather than live with limitations imposed by others. Though it is drawn from decades of private practice, activism, and life in the gay community, Odets’s work achieves remarkable universality. At its core, Out of the Shadows is driven by his belief that it is time that we act based on who we are and not who others are or who they would want us to be. We—particularly the young—must construct our own paths through life. Out of the Shadows is a necessary, impassioned argument for how and why we must all take hold of our futures.

Straight Jacket

Straight Jacket
Author: Matthew Todd
Publsiher: Black Swan
Total Pages: 400
Release: 2018-03-08
ISBN 10: 9780552778404
ISBN 13: 0552778400
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Straight Jacket Book Review:

Straight Jacket is a revolutionary clarion call for gay men, the wider LGBT community, their friends and family. Part memoir, part ground-breaking polemic, it looks beneath the shiny facade of contemporary gay culture and asks if gay people are as happy as they could be--and if not, why not? Meticulously researched, courageous and life-affirming, Straight Jacket offers invaluable practical advice on how to overcome a range of difficult issues. It also recognizes that this is a watershed moment, a piercing wake-up-call-to-arms for the gay and wider community to acknowledge the importance of supporting all young people--and helping older people to transform their experience and finally get the lives they really want.

Why Does This Keep Happening To Me

Why Does This Keep Happening To Me
Author: Alan Downs
Publsiher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2002-01-26
ISBN 10: 0743223691
ISBN 13: 9780743223690
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Why Does This Keep Happening To Me Book Review:

I Can't Believe This Is Happening to Me...Again! "Why does this keep happening to me?" is the question most commonly asked by those entering psychotherapy for the first time. Whether we can't stop dating the wrong guy or taking the wrong job, gaining and losing weight, or getting into debt, it is the repeating patterns in our lives that cause us the most pain and frustration. Now author and psychologist Alan Downs shows us all how we can break these cycles...for good! After fifteen years of working with people from all walks of life -- including executives, homemakers, young adults, and the elderly -- Dr. Downs has identified seven crises that every one of us will face at some point during our lifetime. In Why Does This Keep Happening to Me?, Downs uses his revolutionary Crisis Quiz to show us which of these crises is at the root of our repeating behavior. Downs includes quizzes, exercises, and real-life examples to help us resolve universal issues, including Who will I share my life with? Why can't I believe in myself? How can I become my own person? What does it all mean? With wisdom and compassion, Downs leads us from recognition to recovery, showing us how we can apply our new knowledge and triumph over destructive patterns, breaking the cycle once and for all.

Lie With Me

Lie With Me
Author: Philippe Besson
Publsiher: Scribner
Total Pages: 160
Release: 2019-04-30
ISBN 10: 1501197878
ISBN 13: 9781501197871
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Lie With Me Book Review:

The award-winning, bestselling French novel by Philippe Besson—“the French Brokeback Mountain” (Elle)—about an affair between two teenage boys in 1984 France, translated with subtle beauty and haunting lyricism by the iconic and internationally acclaimed actress/writer Molly Ringwald. We drive at high speed along back roads, through woods, vineyards, and oat fields. The bike smells like gasoline and makes a lot of noise, and sometimes I’m frightened when the wheels slip on the gravel on the dirt road, but the only thing that matters is that I’m holding on to him, that I’m holding on to him outside. Just outside a hotel in Bordeaux, Philippe chances upon a young man who bears a striking resemblance to his first love. What follows is a look back at the relationship he’s never forgotten, a hidden affair with a gorgeous boy named Thomas during their last year of high school. Without ever acknowledging they know each other in the halls, they steal time to meet in secret, carrying on a passionate, world-altering affair. Dazzlingly rendered in English by Ringwald in her first-ever translation, Besson’s powerfully moving coming-of-age story captures the eroticism and tenderness of first love—and the heartbreaking passage of time.

Cruise Control

Cruise Control
Author: Robert Weiss, MSW
Publsiher: eBookIt.com
Total Pages: 249
Release: 2013-02-21
ISBN 10: 0985063343
ISBN 13: 9780985063344
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Cruise Control Book Review:

Cruise Control is the premiere book on the growing problem of sex addiction in gay men. This second edition explores how technology has impacted the instant ability to "meet up" and the implications of being in recovery in a committed relationship. Accessible resource for achieving sex addiction recovery including a "30 day test" and a dating plan.

Insult and the Making of the Gay Self

Insult and the Making of the Gay Self
Author: Didier Eribon
Publsiher: Duke University Press
Total Pages: 474
Release: 2004-06-16
ISBN 10: 082238549X
ISBN 13: 9780822385493
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Insult and the Making of the Gay Self Book Review:

A bestseller in France following its publication in 1999, Insult and the Making of the Gay Self is an extraordinary set of reflections on “the gay question” by Didier Eribon, one of France’s foremost public intellectuals. Known internationally as the author of a pathbreaking biography of Michel Foucault, Eribon is a leading voice in French gay studies. In explorations of gay subjectivity as it is lived now and as it has been expressed in literary history and in the life and work of Foucault, Eribon argues that gay male politics, social life, and culture are transformative responses to an oppressive social order. Bringing together the work of Jean-Paul Sartre, Pierre Bourdieu, Judith Butler, and Erving Goffman, he contends that gay culture and political movements flow from the need to overcome a world of insult in the process of creating gay selves. Eribon describes the emergence of homosexual literature in Britain and France at the turn of the last century and traces this new gay discourse from Oscar Wilde and the literary circles of late-Victorian Oxford to André Gide and Marcel Proust. He asserts that Foucault should be placed in a long line of authors—including Wilde, Gide, and Proust—who from the nineteenth century onward have tried to create spaces in which to resist subjection and reformulate oneself. Drawing on his unrivaled knowledge of Foucault’s oeuvre, Eribon presents a masterful new interpretation of Foucault. He calls attention to a particular passage from Madness and Civilization that has never been translated into English. Written some fifteen years before The History of Sexuality, this passage seems to contradict Foucault’s famous idea that homosexuality was a late-nineteenth-century construction. Including an argument for the use of Hannah Arendt’s thought in gay rights advocacy, Insult and the Making of the Gay Self is an impassioned call for critical, active engagement with the question of how gay life is shaped both from without and within.

The Velvet Rope Economy

The Velvet Rope Economy
Author: Nelson D. Schwartz
Publsiher: Anchor
Total Pages: 352
Release: 2020-03-03
ISBN 10: 0385543093
ISBN 13: 9780385543095
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Velvet Rope Economy Book Review:

From New York Times business reporter Nelson D. Schwartz comes a gripping investigation of how a virtual velvet rope divides Americans in every arena of life, creating a friction-free existence for those with money on one side and a Darwinian struggle for the middle class on the other side. In nearly every realm of daily life--from health care to education, highways to home security--there is an invisible velvet rope that divides how Americans live. On one side of the rope, for a price, red tape is cut, lines are jumped, appointments are secured, and doors are opened. On the other side, middle- and working-class Americans fight to find an empty seat on the plane, a place in line with their kids at the amusement park, a college acceptance, or a hospital bed. We are all aware of the gap between the rich and everyone else, but when we weren't looking, business innovators stepped in to exploit it, shifting services away from the masses and finding new ways to profit by serving the privileged. And as decision-makers and corporate leaders increasingly live on the friction-free side of the velvet rope, they are less inclined to change--or even notice--the obstacles everyone else must contend with. Schwartz's "must read" book takes us on a behind-the-scenes tour of this new reality and shows the toll the velvet rope divide takes on society.

Rage Baking

Rage Baking
Author: Katherine Alford,Kathy Gunst
Publsiher: Tiller Press
Total Pages: 208
Release: 2020-02-04
ISBN 10: 1982132671
ISBN 13: 9781982132675
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Rage Baking Book Review:

50+ recipes, short essays, and quotes from some of the best bakers, activists, and outspoken women in our country today—this cookbook encourages women to use sugar and sass as a way to defend, resist, and protest. Since the 2016 election, many women across the country have felt rage, fury, and frustration, wondering how we got here. Some act by calling their senators, some write checks, some join activist groups, march, paint signs, grab their daughters and sons, and raise their voices. But for so many, they also turn to their greatest comfort—their kitchen. Baking has a new meaning in today’s world. These days, baking can be an outlet for expressing our feelings about the current state of our society. Rage Baking offers more than 50 cookie, cake, tart, and pie recipes as well as inspirational essays, reflections, and interviews with well known bakers and impassioned women and activists including Dorie Greenspan, Ruth Reichl, Carla Hall, Preeti Mistry, Julia Turshen, Pati Jinich, Vallery Lomas, Von Diaz, Genevieve Ko, and writers like Rebecca Traister, Pam Houston, Tess Raffery, Cecile Richards, Ann Friedman, Marti Noxon, and many more. Timely, fun, and creative, this cookbook speaks to both skilled and beginner bakers who are looking for new ways to use their sweetest skills to combine food and activism. Containing a collection of recipes that are satisfying and delicious, Rage Baking unites like-minded women who are passionate about baking and change.

Lavender Light

Lavender Light
Author: Adrian Milton
Publsiher: Backinprint.com
Total Pages: 388
Release: 2008-06
ISBN 10: 9780595515608
ISBN 13: 0595515606
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Lavender Light Book Review:

In the first book of daily meditations written especially for gay men in recovery, simple yet powerful words of wisdom speak of this unique experience--and reflect upon issues that are rarely addressed by support groups or recovery literature. Offering new insights into personal concerns, these are day-to-day messages of hope and healing.

Faggots

Faggots
Author: Larry Kramer
Publsiher: Grove/Atlantic, Inc.
Total Pages: 386
Release: 2007-12-01
ISBN 10: 155584667X
ISBN 13: 9781555846671
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Faggots Book Review:

“A book of major historical importance—the first contemporary novel to chronicle gay life with unsparing honesty and wild humor.”—Erica Jong In print since its original publication in 1978, Larry Kramer’s Faggots has become one of the bestselling novels about gay life ever written. The book is a fierce satire of the gay ghetto and a touching story of one man’s desperate search for love there, and reading it today is a fascinating look at how much, and how little, has changed. “As a documentation of an era, as savage and savagely funny social parody, as a cry in the wilderness, and as a prescient, accurate reading of the writing on the wall, the novel is peerless and utterly necessary. It is brilliant, bellicose, contemptuous, compassionate and—as is true of everything Kramer writes—behind its delectable, entertaining, sometimes maddening harshness is a profoundly moving plea for justice and for love. There are few books in modern gay fiction, or modern fiction for that matter, that must be read. Faggots is certainly one of them.”—Tony Kushner “A Vesuvian explosion about the gay life that spares no one and no thing . . . there is much truth and honesty to be found here.”—Chicago Tribune “True comic brilliance—a vicious Swiftian satire that, like all satire, contains a strong moral voice.”—New York “Faggots, for all its excesses, is frequently right on target and, when it is on target, is appallingly funny.”—Edward Albee “Larry Kramer is one of America’s most valuable troublemakers. I hope he never lowers his voice.”—Susan Sontag

To be a Gay Man

To be a Gay Man
Author: Will Young
Publsiher: Random House
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2020-09-03
ISBN 10: 0753554267
ISBN 13: 9780753554265
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

To be a Gay Man Book Review:

PART OF BBC2'S BOOK CLUB BETWEEN THE COVERS In To Be a Gay Man, Will Young speaks out about gay shame, revealing the impact it had on his own life, how he learned to deal with it, and how he can now truthfully say he is gay and happy. We know Will as a multi-platinum recording artist, Olivier-nominee, and the first winner of the Idol franchise. But his story began long before his first audition. Looking back on a world where growing up being called gay was the ultimate insult and coming out after a lifetime of hiding his sexuality, Will explores the long-lasting impact repressing his true self has had. As Will's own story demonstrates, internalised shame in childhood increases the risk of developing low self-worth, and even self-disgust, leading to destructive behaviours in adult life. Will revisits the darkest extremes he has been to, sharing his vulnerabilities, his regrets, tracing his own navigation through it all and showing the way for others who might have felt alone in the same experience. Here you will find a friend, champion and mentor, breaking taboos with frank honesty, and offering invaluable practical advice on overcoming the difficult issues too often faced within the LGBTQ+ community.

Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots

Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots
Author: Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
Publsiher: AK Press
Total Pages: 212
Release: 2012-01
ISBN 10: 1849350884
ISBN 13: 9781849350884
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots Book Review:

Disputes recent efforts by leaders within the LGBT community to assimilate into mainstream culture with essays that describe the lives and problems of individuals who do not fit into their currently acceptable norms.

Lust Men and Meth

Lust  Men  and Meth
Author: David Michael Fawcett
Publsiher: S FL Center for Counseling and Therapy, Incorporated
Total Pages: 226
Release: 2015-09-25
ISBN 10: 9780996257800
ISBN 13: 0996257802
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Lust Men and Meth Book Review:

Fawcett provides a practical resource for recovery from methamphetamine and the restoration of healthy sex and intimacy. He outlines a path toward healing, describing the phases of physical, emotional, and sexual recovery and provides a broad range of supportive tools from managing triggers to mindfulness.

Coming Out of Shame

Coming Out of Shame
Author: Gershen Kaufman,Lev Raphael
Publsiher: Doubleday Books
Total Pages: 287
Release: 1996
ISBN 10:
ISBN 13: UOM:49015003195675
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Coming Out of Shame Book Review:

Offers prescriptive advice for transcending the undermining effects of shame on the personal security, mental health, and happiness of gays and lesbians

What If It s Us

What If It s Us
Author: Becky Albertalli,Adam Silvera
Publsiher: HarperCollins
Total Pages: 448
Release: 2018-10-09
ISBN 10: 0062795244
ISBN 13: 9780062795243
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

What If It s Us Book Review:

A New York Times, USA Today, and Indie bestseller! Critically acclaimed and bestselling authors Becky Albertalli and Adam Silvera combine their talents in this smart, funny, heartfelt collaboration about two very different boys who can’t decide if the universe is pushing them together—or pulling them apart. ARTHUR is only in New York for the summer, but if Broadway has taught him anything, it’s that the universe can deliver a showstopping romance when you least expect it. BEN thinks the universe needs to mind its business. If the universe had his back, he wouldn’t be on his way to the post office carrying a box of his ex-boyfriend’s things. But when Arthur and Ben meet-cute at the post office, what exactly does the universe have in store for them . . . ? Maybe nothing. After all, they get separated. Maybe everything. After all, they get reunited. But what if they can’t nail a first date even after three do-overs? What if Arthur tries too hard to make it work and Ben doesn’t try hard enough? What if life really isn’t like a Broadway play? But what if it is? What if it’s us? Plus don't miss Yes No Maybe So, Becky Albertalli's and Aisha Saeed's heartwarming and hilarious new novel, or Infinity Son, the first book in Adam Silvera’s epic new fantasy series, both coming in 2020!

Something For The Weekend

Something For The Weekend
Author: James Wharton
Publsiher: Biteback Publishing
Total Pages: 272
Release: 2017-07-31
ISBN 10: 1785902385
ISBN 13: 9781785902383
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Something For The Weekend Book Review:

After spending ten years in the army, James Wharton enters civilian life and settles in the idyllic English countryside with his husband and two dogs, in what seems to be a perfect fairy-tale ending. But only a year later, separated from his husband, James finds himself trying to carve out a new life in London, frequenting the capital's gay clubbing scene in a search for potential friends and lovers. He is quick to discover the phenomenon known as 'chemsex' - a weekend world of drugs, partying and sex. Immediately hooked, James begins to spend hours, often days, with groups of total strangers, locked in drug-induced states of heightened sexual desire. Something for the Weekend compassionately explores the growing popularity of chemsex and considers the motivating factors that have lured people into this underworld. James interviews a variety of characters, from drug dealers and sexual health experts to other gay men who, like himself, became addicted to this often volatile culture, and reveals how chemsex has cemented its status as more than just a short-term craze, becoming a permanent feature in modern gay life.

The Girl on the Velvet Swing

The Girl on the Velvet Swing
Author: Simon Baatz
Publsiher: Mulholland Books
Total Pages: 400
Release: 2018-01-16
ISBN 10: 0316396672
ISBN 13: 9780316396677
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Girl on the Velvet Swing Book Review:

From New York Times bestselling author Simon Baatz, the first comprehensive account of the murder that shocked the world. In 1901 Evelyn Nesbit, a chorus girl in the musical Florodora, dined alone with the architect Stanford White in his townhouse on 24th Street in New York. Nesbit, just sixteen years old, had recently moved to the city. White was forty-seven and a principal in the prominent architectural firm McKim, Mead & White. As the foremost architect of his day, he was a celebrity, responsible for designing countless landmark buildings in Manhattan. That evening, after drinking champagne, Nesbit lost consciousness and awoke to find herself naked in bed with White. Telltale spots of blood on the bed sheets told her that White had raped her. She told no one about the rape until, several years later, she confided in Harry Thaw, the millionaire playboy who would later become her husband. Thaw, thirsting for revenge, shot and killed White in 1906 before hundreds of theatergoers during a performance in Madison Square Garden, a building that White had designed. The trial was a sensation that gripped the nation. Most Americans agreed with Thaw that he had been justified in killing White, but the district attorney expected to send him to the electric chair. Evelyn Nesbit's testimony was so explicit and shocking that Theodore Roosevelt himself called on the newspapers not to print it verbatim. The murder of White cast a long shadow: Harry Thaw later attempted suicide, and Evelyn Nesbit struggled for many years to escape an addiction to cocaine. The Girl on the Velvet Swing, a tale of glamour, excess, and danger, is an immersive, fascinating look at an America dominated by men of outsize fortunes and by the women who were their victims.