Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Doug Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams
Publsiher: Workman Publishing
Total Pages: 224
Release: 2019-02-05
ISBN 10: 1523505567
ISBN 13: 9781523505562
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Eight Dates Book Review:

Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians. Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Doug Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams
Publsiher: Workman Publishing
Total Pages: 224
Release: 2019-02-05
ISBN 10: 1523504463
ISBN 13: 9781523504466
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Eight Dates Book Review:

Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Gottman,Rachel Abrams,Doug Abrams
Publsiher: Penguin UK
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2019-07-04
ISBN 10: 0241988365
ISBN 13: 9780241988367
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Eight Dates Book Review:

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings on the ingredients to a happy, lasting love life, they have now created an easy series of eight dates, spanning: - commitment & trust - conflict resolution - intimacy & sex - fun & adventure - work & money - family values - growth & spirituality - goals & aspirations Eight Dates draws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Dates is an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling. 'Can a marriage really be understood? Yes it can. Gottman shows us how' Malcolm Gladwell, author of Blink

What Makes Love Last

What Makes Love Last
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,John Gottman,Nan Silver
Publsiher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 304
Release: 2013-09-10
ISBN 10: 1451608489
ISBN 13: 9781451608489
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

What Makes Love Last Book Review:

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Author: John Gottman, Ph.D.
Publsiher: Harmony
Total Pages: 288
Release: 2002-02-04
ISBN 10: 0609899538
ISBN 13: 9780609899533
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Book Review:

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

The Man s Guide to Women

The Man s Guide to Women
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Douglas Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D.
Publsiher: Rodale Books
Total Pages: 224
Release: 2016-02-02
ISBN 10: 1623361850
ISBN 13: 9781623361853
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Man s Guide to Women Book Review:

Results from world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman’s famous Love Lab have proven an incredible truth: Men make or break relationships. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man? Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play—and win—the game of love.

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
Author: John M. Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Joan DeClaire
Publsiher: Harmony
Total Pages: 275
Release: 2007
ISBN 10: 1400050197
ISBN 13: 9781400050192
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage Book Review:

The experts at the Love Lab introduce a series of effective tools and practical steps for couples looking to improve or preserve their relationships, explaining how to identify common problems and to develop positive ways to avoid these destructive pitfalls. Reprint. 40,000 first printing.

The Science of Trust Emotional Attunement for Couples

The Science of Trust  Emotional Attunement for Couples
Author: John M. Gottman
Publsiher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 496
Release: 2011-05-09
ISBN 10: 0393707407
ISBN 13: 9780393707403
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Science of Trust Emotional Attunement for Couples Book Review:

An eminent therapist explains what makes couples compatible and how to sustain a happy marriage. For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship. Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times. Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient. This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy  Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology
Author: Julie Schwartz Gottman,John M. Gottman
Publsiher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 288
Release: 2015-10-26
ISBN 10: 0393710505
ISBN 13: 9780393710502
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology Book Review:

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

The Heart of Parenting

The Heart of Parenting
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,Joan DeClaire
Publsiher: Unknown
Total Pages: 239
Release: 1997
ISBN 10: 9780684801308
ISBN 13: 0684801302
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Heart of Parenting Book Review:

A professor of psychology details a five-step process called "motion coaching" that allows parents to raise a child better able to cope with his or her emotions. 35,000 first printing.

The Relationship Cure

The Relationship Cure
Author: John Gottman, PhD,Joan DeClaire
Publsiher: Harmony
Total Pages: 336
Release: 2017-02-22
ISBN 10: 152476177X
ISBN 13: 9781524761776
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Relationship Cure Book Review:

From the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman: - Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection” - Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection - Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids - And more! Packed with fascinating questionnaires and exercises developed in his therapy, The Relationship Cure offers a simple but profound program that will fundamentally transform the quality of all of the relationships in your life.

Principia Amoris

Principia Amoris
Author: John Mordechai Gottman
Publsiher: Routledge
Total Pages: 310
Release: 2014-10-10
ISBN 10: 1136175652
ISBN 13: 9781136175657
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Principia Amoris Book Review:

Stereotypically, science and emotion are diametric opposites: one is cold and unfeeling, the other soft and nebulous; one is based on proven facts while the other is based on inexplicable feelings and “never the twain shall meet,” until now. John Gottman delves into the unquantifiable realm of love, armed with science and logic, and emerges with the knowledge that relationships can be not only understood, but also predicted as well. Based on research done at his Love Lab and other laboratories, Gottman has discovered that the future of love relationships can be predicted with a startling 91% success rate. These predictions can help couples to prevent disasters in their relationships, recognize the signs of a promising relationship, and perhaps more importantly, recognize the signs of a doomed one. Principia Amoris also introduces Love Equations, a mathematical modeling of relationships that helps understand predictions. Love Equations are powerful tools that can prevent relationship distress and heal ailing relationships. Readers learn about the various research and studies that were done to discover the science behind love, and are treated to a history of the people, ideas, and events that shaped our current understanding. They also learn about: • The “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” • 45 natural principles of love • 5 couple types • 5 recipes for good relationships • And much more! Just as science helped us to understand the physical world, it is helping us to understand the emotional world as well. Using the insights in this book, mental health professionals can meaningfully help their distressed clients, as well as better understand why a relationship is failing or succeeding. Appropriate for the curious non-mental health professional as well, Principia Amoris is a must-have on any bookshelf!

And Baby Makes Three

And Baby Makes Three
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman
Publsiher: Harmony
Total Pages: 252
Release: 2008
ISBN 10: 140009738X
ISBN 13: 9781400097388
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

And Baby Makes Three Book Review:

Drawing on separate scientific studies, two relationship experts introduce the knowledge and skills couples need to make the transition to parenthood, using practical advice and real-life examples to help couples avoid relationship meltdown, maintain a healthy sex life, preserve emotional intimacy, prevent postpartum depression, and create a nurturing environment. Reprint. 50,000 first printing.

Meta Emotion

Meta Emotion
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,Lynn Fainsilber Katz,Carole Hooven
Publsiher: Routledge
Total Pages: 384
Release: 2013-02-01
ISBN 10: 1134795971
ISBN 13: 9781134795970
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Meta Emotion Book Review:

This book describes research on the emotional communication between parents and children and its effect on the children's emotional development. Inspired by the work, and dedicated to the memory of Dr. Haim Ginott, it presents the results of initial exploratory work with meta-emotion--feelings about feelings. The initial study of meta-emotion generated some theory and made it possible to propose a research agenda. Clearly replication is necessary, and experiments are needed to test the path analytic models which have been developed from the authors' correlational data. The authors hope that other researchers will find these ideas interesting and stimulating, and will inspire investigation in this exciting new area of a family's emotional life.

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child
Author: John Gottman
Publsiher: Simon and Schuster
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2011-09-20
ISBN 10: 143912616X
ISBN 13: 9781439126165
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child Book Review:

Intelligence That Comes from the Heart Every parent knows the importance of equipping children with the intellectual skills they need to succeed in school and life. But children also need to master their emotions. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child is a guide to teaching children to understand and regulate their emotional world. And as acclaimed psychologist and researcher John Gottman shows, once they master this important life skill, emotionally intelligent children will enjoy increased self-confidence, greater physical health, better performance in school, and healthier social relationships. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will equip parents with a five-step "emotion coaching" process that teaches how to: * Be aware of a child's emotions * Recognize emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching * Listen empathetically and validate a child's feelings * Label emotions in words a child can understand * Help a child come up with an appropriate way to solve a problem or deal with an upsetting issue or situation Written for parents of children of all ages, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child will enrich the bonds between parent and child and contribute immeasurably to the development of a generation of emotionally healthy adults.

A Couple s Guide to Communication

A Couple s Guide to Communication
Author: John Mordechai Gottman
Publsiher: Research PressPub
Total Pages: 220
Release: 1976
ISBN 10:
ISBN 13: UOM:39015015292561
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

A Couple s Guide to Communication Book Review:

This book is designed to help couples with communication and that in turn will help their relationship both socially and sexually.

The Marriage Clinic A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy

The Marriage Clinic  A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy
Author: John M. Gottman
Publsiher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 480
Release: 1999-08-17
ISBN 10: 0393712362
ISBN 13: 9780393712360
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Marriage Clinic A Scientifically Based Marital Therapy Book Review:

The Marriage Clinic presents a complete marital therapy program based on John Gottman's much heralded research on marital success and failure. Here one will find not only a wide range of succinct and useful assessment procedures, but also a highly specific, research-based, and modularized treatment program. In addition, there are dozens of questionnaires and interview protocols to be used in both assessment and intervention. In prospective, long-term research with over 700 couples, Gottman has discovered certain factors that distinguish happy, stable couples from both unstable, ultimately divorcing couples and stable but unhappy couples. These findings, which are explained here in understandable, nontechnical language, form the basis of his Sound Marital House theory of marriage, which guides the new therapy. This therapy has two goals: changing the marital friendship and teaching couples to regulate conflict. Despite the high aims of much marital therapy, Gottman found that most marital conflicts involve fundamentally unresolvable relationship issues called "perpetual problems." He shows how therapists can help spouses move from gridlock to dialogue on these issues. Solvable problems can be resolved more easily when the couple has a strong marital friendship. He gives therapists the tools to teach spouses five fundamental skills to develop and strengthen their friendship: softened start-up, accepting influence, repair and de-escalation, compromise, and physiological soothing. Gottman compares his clinic to a restaurant, where clients are offered a menu of treatment formats, from psychoeducation for specific issues to extended therapy to repair a badly damaged marital friendship. Therapists, too, can choose among the questionnaires and strategies for those that fit the needs of particular couples. Whatever their choice, they will find that their practice is greatly enriched by the scientifically-based offerings of The Marriage Clinic.

The Science of Couples and Family Therapy Behind the Scenes at the Love Lab

The Science of Couples and Family Therapy  Behind the Scenes at the  Love Lab
Author: John M. Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman
Publsiher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 320
Release: 2018-01-02
ISBN 10: 0393712753
ISBN 13: 9780393712759
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Science of Couples and Family Therapy Behind the Scenes at the Love Lab Book Review:

John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned for bringing an evidence base to couples therapy, report here the results of a second empirical revolution in understanding couples and families. This change is not based on their guesswork, but on state-of-the-art science. The book you hold in your hands finally completes the old general systems theory of the 1960s, which metaphorically described processes but did not actually research them. A new general systems theory and therapy is presented here, one which will have profound implications for powerful clinical work with both couples and families. This new theory is based on 45 years of careful basic scientific research with thousands of couples and families, including synchronized observational, interview, physiological, and questionnaire data. The Gottmans have studied some families for as long as 20 consecutive years. Their work has led to their highly replicated ability to precisely predict the future of relationships, relationship happiness, and whether couples will divorce or not with as much as 94% accuracy. Their empirical work has also led them to develop and test a theory of specifically what makes relationships work. Each construct in this theory is precise and measurable and it is all written about and described here. This book presents an original new way of understanding relationships and families. Both theoretical and highly practical, and it will help clinicians become more effective in their everyday work.

The Marriage Clinic Casebook

The Marriage Clinic Casebook
Author: Julie Schwartz Gottman
Publsiher: W. W. Norton & Company
Total Pages: 240
Release: 2004-10-17
ISBN 10: 0393712400
ISBN 13: 9780393712407
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Marriage Clinic Casebook Book Review:

The Marriage Clinic Casebook bridges the gap between the powerful theory behind Gottman Method Couples Therapy and the unique application of therapeutic principles to real-life cases. Covering a broad range of couples as well as a variety of relational problems, this casebook is a resource for clinicians who want practical guidance for putting the powerful Gottman method to work.

The Mathematics of Marriage

The Mathematics of Marriage
Author: John M. Gottman,James D. Murray,Catherine C. Swanson,Rebecca Tyson,Kristin R. Swanson
Publsiher: MIT Press
Total Pages: 424
Release: 2005-01-14
ISBN 10: 0262250454
ISBN 13: 9780262250450
Language: EN, FR, DE, ES & NL

The Mathematics of Marriage Book Review:

Divorce rates are at an all-time high. But without a theoretical understanding of the processes related to marital stability and dissolution, it is difficult to design and evaluate new marriage interventions. The Mathematics of Marriage provides the foundation for a scientific theory of marital relations. The book does not rely on metaphors, but develops and applies a mathematical model using difference equations. The work is the fulfillment of the goal to build a mathematical framework for the general system theory of families first suggested by Ludwig Von Bertalanffy in the 1960s.The book also presents a complete introduction to the mathematics involved in theory building and testing, and details the development of experiments and models. In one "marriage experiment," for example, the authors explored the effects of lowering or raising a couple's heart rates. Armed with their mathematical model, they were able to do real experiments to determine which processes were affected by their interventions. Applying ideas such as phase space, null clines, influence functions, inertia, and uninfluenced and influenced stable steady states (attractors), the authors show how other researchers can use the methods to weigh their own data with positive and negative weights. While the focus is on modeling marriage, the techniques can be applied to other types of psychological phenomena as well.